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Our “Ask a Question” mailbag addresses Estate Planning for LGBT Married Couples.

“Right after the legalization of gay marriage my husband and I married in Pennsylvania. Since then, we have not updated any documents. Given the outcome of the Presidential election, we feel like we need to get things done. What is Estate Planning for LGBT Married Couples?”

Our “Ask a Question” mailbag addresses LGBT Estate Planning for Married Couples after President Trump’s election.

My wife and I are a same-sex married couple. We married in New Jersey and now live in Pennsylvania. Trump’s election makes us nervous, we are afraid that he may strip away some of our married couple rights. What estate planning documents should we sign to make sure that we have the right to make medical decisions for each other should one of us get sick?”

From our “Ask a Question” mailbag addresses the issue of combining a medical power of attorney and divorce.

“I gave my wife my medical power of attorney and divorce started soon after. During our divorce proceedings, does my wife still have the power to pull my plug?”

Our “Ask a Question” mailbag addresses the issue of which documents to change when divorcing.: “My Wife is divorcing me, what estate planning documents should I change to protect myself?”

“I am not sure which documents to change when divorcing. My Wife has filed for divorce, what estate planning documents should I change to protect myself?”

From our “Ask a Question” mailbag: My son does not get along with his stepfather and wants to move to another state to live with relatives. He won’t turn 18 for another year. How do I manage medical decisions for him if he is in another state?

For non-emergency medical care, there is likely no problem as you can communicate with his local doctor and give authorization for examinations or minor care. Work with his doctor and give their office the authorization that they request.

From our “Ask a Question” mailbag: My mother, who lives in Burlington County, New Jersey, is having serious health problems. She wants me to be able to use her general power of attorney, but it says I need a doctor’s note saying that she is incapacitated. Is that normal?

Your mother has a “Leaping” Power of Attorney, which at one time was the normal document that Burlington County Estate Planning Lawyers would prepare. A Leaping Power of Attorney gives the “Agent” the power to act for the person if—and only if—that person has become incapacitated, and the Agent can secure a letter from the person’s doctor stating that the person is incapacitated. Without the letter the power of attorney is useless.

My mother, who lives in Camden County, New Jersey, is having serious health problems. She wants me to be able to use her general power of attorney, but it requires a doctor’s note saying that she is incapacitated. Is that normal?

Your mother has a “Leaping” Power of Attorney which, at one time, was the normal document that Camden County Estate Planning Lawyers would prepare. A Leaping Power of Attorney gives the “Agent” the power to act for the person if…and only if…that person has become incapacitated, and the Agent can secure a letter from the person’s doctor stating that the person is incapacitated. Without the letter, the power of attorney is useless.

My mother, who lives in Camden County, New Jersey, is having serious health problems. She wants me to be able to use her general power of attorney, but it says I need a doctor’s note saying that she is incapacitated. Is that normal?

Your mother has a “Leaping” Power of Attorney, which, at one time, was the normal document that Camden County Estate Planning Lawyers would prepare. A Leaping Power of Attorney gives the “Agent” the power to act for the person if — and only if — that person has become incapacitated, and the Agent can secure a letter from the person’s doctor stating that the person is incapacitated.

Decades ago, when I started my practice as an estate-planning attorney, there were rumblings about how modern medicine was changing the way people died. For most of human existence death came quickly from an illness or injury about which physicians could do nothing. Now, advances in medical knowledge allow us to battle death, giving us more time with our loved ones. But this same gift often makes the dying process a long, slow struggle against an incurable disease or untreatable injury. Sometimes, after a long struggle with illness and with full knowledge that death is certain and the future holds nothing but suffering, a person will decide to voluntarily stop eating and drinking (“VSED”), which hastens the inevitable end.

Every modern medical advance to make our lives better brings with it new challenges and problems we must address.