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From our “Ask a Question” mailbag: I live in Bucks County, and my Will names my two children as co-executors. I thought this was a natural thing to do, but my children have not been getting along recently. What are my options?

Naming your children as co-executors when they don’t get along is a bad idea. Co-executors have to work well together and cooperate. Children who are having a dispute can transform a small family squabble into a feud that could last for generations.

You should investigate changing your Will to name another family member or, if you have none that you trust, to name your Bucks County Estate Planning Attorney.

Our Ask a Question mailbag often includes reader submissions wondering about whether long term care insurance makes financial sense.

As with all insurance policies, long term care coverage works out to be a great deal — if you actually use it. On the other hand, you could argue that you wasted money if you never have to claim your benefits.

Over the years I have had many Gloucester County clients who died without using their long term care insurance benefits. But there have also been clients who fell ill and, without strong policies in place, would have been forced to leave their homes.

From our “Ask a Question” mailbag: Years ago, I gave my friend a General Durable Power of Attorney. Now I am married, living in Delaware County and want to give Power of Attorney to my spouse. My now-former friend will not give me the old Power of Attorney. Can I revoke or void the Power of Attorney if he still has the original?

Yes, you can void a Power of Attorney at any time, as long as you have the requisite mental capacity. Your situation will be a little more complex, as you have given the original document to your former Agent. I have not seen that Power of Attorney, but it may have a paragraph that states that banks and others need not confirm with you that the document is still in power.

From our “Ask a Question” mailbag: Before he died, my dad lived with me in Camden County, New Jersey for several years. My wife and I took him to the doctor and cared for him when he became bedridden. He died without a will and all his assets are being divided between my brothers and I equally. They never helped with his care. This is not fair. Can I make the estate pay me for my time?

Under New Jersey rules, your father could have made a will and given you the entire estate. Alternately, he could have made a Will that said you would receive more of his estate to reflect the work you did. Because he did not make a Will at all, the New Jersey intestate rule divides his assets between all children, equally.

From our “Ask a Question” mailbag: I am a resident of Burlington County, New Jersey and want to modify my will. My two children are older and I want to name them as co-executors. Is naming my children as co-executors a good idea?

Naming your children as co-executors (or “personal representatives”) of your Will can be a fine idea, or a terrible idea, depending on your children. You need to be honest with yourself about how well your children’s personalities work (or do not work) together.

From our “Ask a Question” mailbag: In preparation for my upcoming death, I have formed a Revocable Living Trust to make easier the transfer of my assets to my partner. I wish to avoid probate in Bucks County, Pennsylvania. I do have some legal claims against people who owe me money that may not be resolved before my death. Do I need a will?

If properly formed and funded with all of your assets that would otherwise be probate assets, your thoughtfully planned Revocable Living Trust can avoid probate in Bucks County. However, if you have a legal claim at your death, that claim must be pursued by your Executor. Although it is possible to transfer your claim into the Revocable Trust, this is often problematic.

Many readers have submitted questions recently about long term care insurance, especially from Atlantic County, New Jersey. Despite all the attention that Atlantic City gets in the news, Atlantic County’s core population mostly lives inland—with over 43,000 residents in Egg Harbor Township alone.

That population’s getting older all the time, too. Compare the 2010 Census results with its predecessor and you’ll see that, as in many parts of the country, citizens aged 65 and older make up a growing percentage of the population.

From our “Ask a Question” mailbag: My mother is incapacitated and living in an assisted living facility in Atlantic County, New Jersey. She appointed my brother Agent under her Power of Attorney. My mother has a life insurance policy that names me as beneficiary. My brother refuses to make the payment, so the policy will soon lapse. Can I make the payment?

The insurance company does not care who sends the check. Therefore, you certainly can make the payment.

The real question you should be asking here is: should you make the payment?

From our “Ask a Question” mailbag: My mother, who lives in Burlington County, New Jersey, is having serious health problems. She wants me to be able to use her general power of attorney, but it says I need a doctor’s note saying that she is incapacitated. Is that normal?

Your mother has a “Leaping” Power of Attorney, which at one time was the normal document that Burlington County Estate Planning Lawyers would prepare. A Leaping Power of Attorney gives the “Agent” the power to act for the person if—and only if—that person has become incapacitated, and the Agent can secure a letter from the person’s doctor stating that the person is incapacitated. Without the letter the power of attorney is useless.

From our “Ask a Question” mailbag: I have signed a General Power of Attorney giving my daughter the power to act for me, but I don’t want her to have it yet. I only want her to have it when (or if) I become unable to care for myself. Should I keep it in my safe deposit box? We both live in Philadelphia, so she is close by.

Safe deposit boxes work so well because they’re designed to keep people out. The problem with putting your General Power of Attorney in your safe deposit box is that if you become incapacitated, your daughter will likely be unable to get into the box.