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From our “Ask a Question” mailbag: Before he died, my dad lived with me in Gloucester County, New Jersey for several years. My wife and I took him to the doctor and cared for him when he became bedridden. He died without a will and all his assets are being divided between my brothers and I equally. They never helped with his care. This is not fair. Can I make the estate pay me for my time?

From our “Ask a Question” mailbag: My mother has Alzheimer’s, so we have sold her house and moved her into my house where my wife and I care for her. My brother is emotionally supportive, but he lives in California so he does not help out with her day-to-day care or decisions dealing with her health or assets. Though she is cooperative, the Alzheimer’s makes caring for her a near full-time job and we have spent a great deal of money on alterations to the house. Can I be reimbursed from her estate for these expenses?

From our “Ask a Question” mailbag: I want to give my daughter some money as a gift, but not tell my other children. I am worried that, at my death, the other children will find out and claim the gift was a loan and try to make her return the money. How can I reduce the chance of a fight?

From our “Ask a Question” mailbag: My adult daughter is a Special Needs Child who has always lived in Burlington County, New Jersey. She will likely always live here and always need care. She is currently eligible for and using Medicaid. When I die, I want to leave her some money, but I don’t want to disqualify her for Medicaid. What can I do?

From our “Ask a Question” mailbag: My husband received a small sum from his aunt’s estate. We looked up the will ourselves at the Camden County Surrogate, and we believe he should have gotten more. The executor will not answer our questions. What can we do?

From our “Ask a Question” mailbag: My mother’s caregiver informed us at the funeral that my mother signed a will giving the caregiver all her money. What can we do?

In general, if she has not filed the will yet, you could have an experienced will contest lawyer file paperwork to stop her from filing the will. You can then take stock of the situation. You will then know when the will was signed, who are the witnesses, if the signature is your mother’s, and who drafted the will. You can also surmise your mother’s mental state on the date the will was signed.

From our “Ask a Question” mailbag: My Mom’s will says that all estate money is divided equally between her children. The Personal Representative said she would be writing us equal checks. It has been 9 months and I have not received a check. How do I get her to hold up her end of the will terms?

New Jersey gives the Personal Representative a great deal of unsupervised power to handle the estate. If you feel that this power is being abused, you have the right to force her to appear in court and explain herself. You can hire an attorney experienced in Surrogate’s Court litigation who can file for you a Petition forcing the Personal Representative to file a Schedule of Distribution, which is her road-map plan of how she will distribute the estate’s assets.

From our “Ask a Question” mailbag: I filed my father’s will with the Surrogate and was named the Personal Representative, but am having second thoughts. My family is litigious. Can I be sued and found personally liable?

By accepting the position of Personal Representative you became a fiduciary with a duty to the beneficiaries. If your family is litigious, you are right to be concerned. All the beneficiaries have the right to petition the Surrogates Court and ask the court to surcharge you should they feel any action you took reduced their inheritance. This could be a sale of land at too low a price, a fee you paid to a creditor, or even your salary.

From our “Ask a Question” mailbag: My friend created a website with valuable information. He died unexpectedly and it seems that his executor is allowing his hosting account to lapse. Could the executor access this information and sell it for the estate?

The ownership of the website, the data thereon, and the ability of the Executor to gather and use or sell that date will depend on the agreement your friend signed with the host. The Executor has the power to ask questions about the site and gather information about the site. This can be a slow and laborious process if your friend did not leave information about accessing the account.

From our “Ask a Question” mailbag: What if my future son-in-law refuses to sign a prenuptial agreement? Can he claim a share of what I leave my daughter?

If your daughter marries her fiancé without a prenuptial agreement, and commingles with her husband’s assets what she inherits from you, then—in a divorce—she may lose a share or all of her inheritance. Further, if she dies after receiving the inheritance, she may give all of her inheritance to her husband who is free to then leave those assets as he sees fit at his death.